Facebook Feeds Information, Blogging Nourishes Conversation

Last week my mom and I ended up in a Facebook related discussion.  She mentioned how when she added a friend of mine who she had met a few times, how she thought she would get to see pictures of the person’s baby.  I explained that my friend had said even before her son was born that she wouldn’t be posting pictures of him primarily for privacy and personal reasons, but also because she didn’t want to be one of “those” parents who post nonstop pictures of their kids.  I told my mom I respected my friend for it, and that no matter how much Facebook wants us to believe what we post is “private” that I don’t trust it.

Out of sheer nosiness Friday evening I reactivated my account for about an hour.  I was shocked to see a former coworker expecting her 4th child, intrigued to see an ex-friend was now in a relationship and not surprised to see the same typical ramblings of more than one person.  I shook my head seeing some nonstop status updates by some, wondering what more they could be accomplishing or how much happier they would be if they just deactivated their page for a period of time.  I won’t lie in that I did enjoy seeing pictures of some friends’ children and particularly their vacation photos.

In browsing people’s pages it reemphasized to me how much Facebook wants us to believe it’s connecting us to others when it really isn’t.  If I never activated Facebook I would likely have never known about that former coworker expecting another child.  The reason is she and I don’t talk anymore.  Not for any bad reason, just one of those drift apart because you physically moved apart type of things.  If I remained on Facebook I would still be her “friend” but I wouldn’t have any better of a connection to her than I do now.  Would I know more about her life?  Sure.  Would I interact with her?  Only if you count “liking” a status and a random comment here or there as real interaction.  Would I have a real relationship with her?  No.

In contrast by being a member of the blogging community I am connecting with “strangers” on a near daily basis.  By reading their posts I am getting a deeper sense of who they are – what they like, what they’ve experienced, what they hope to achieve.  The comments I leave often tend to be long winded.  There are two reasons for that.  One, I’m a talker by nature.  Two, if I’m taking the time to comment it means that the post affected me in some way.

Unlike Facebook, where many times I was liking statuses or leaving quick comments such as “Congrats” out of an underlying pressure to do it, when I like or comment on a blog it’s because I actually enjoyed it.  Sometimes these comments lead to a bit of back and forth, creating a nice dialogue.  I know odds are slim I will ever meet any of these people I “talk” to, but my interactions with them help me to grow as a person.  Too often on Facebook where it seems almost the norm to become offended and attack those who disagree with you or think differently, I censored what I wrote to people.  When I comment on a blog I’m never censoring myself because I feel there is an unspoken respect and acceptance that while we may all be different, we are all writers sharing our thoughts and that connects us.

Facebook may enable us to know more facts about each other, but blogging allows us to actually connect to one another.

About Tracy

Runner. Writer. Reader. Environmental and Indigenous Peoples advocate. Work from home Workforce Specialist. NASM Certified Personal Trainer. Assistant Varsity Track Coach. Fascinated by the ocean, waterfalls and Christmas lights.
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6 Responses to Facebook Feeds Information, Blogging Nourishes Conversation

  1. Very true indeed! Great post!

  2. Erratic Movement says:

    I left Facebook about a year and a half ago. It was primarily for reasons you bring up: I’d spent a couple of seconds scanning statuses from people I no longer really know. I found that the people I actually want to stay connected with I have other avenues to stay in touch, and with regards to WordPress, I use it less frequently but spend more time reading and commenting about topics I have more engagement with.

    • TracyNicole says:

      I will be Facebook free for a year in September. Those handful of times I’ve reactivated it for about an hour it just amazes me that I spent so much time doing nothing on there but scrolling primarily nonsense. I agree that the people you want to keep in touch with you will always find a way. I agree that blogging allows us to interact more with others on topics we’re interested in as opposed to just reading anyone/everyone’s info on Facebook.

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