The practice of maintaining a nonjudgmental state of heightened or complete awareness of one’s thoughts, emotions, or experiences on a moment-to-moment basis – Merriam-Webster
I have never been much for meditation. I have tried it several times in the past few years and it’s never seemed to click for me. I find I either am too mentally stirred up to quiet my thoughts or am too tired to focus and start to fall asleep. The breathing portion of it I have found relaxing at times, but as far as an overall daily practice – not exactly my cup of green tea.
For me mindfulness is something entirely different. While I’m sure those who regularly engage in meditation would consider the two interconnected, I don’t see mindfulness as something I need to practice but rather something that just happens naturally. Sometimes I become so lost in it that I don’t actually realize that I’m being mindful at the time.
The most recent example was last evening while sitting on my zero gravity chair in the yard. My husband pointed out several bumblebees flying to various flowers. We have concerns about the declining bee population so we like to point out when we see them in the yard. We sat there for several minutes just watching the bees. At one point I said to him I wonder how many other people do similar activities, just sit in their yards and watch nature.
We weren’t attempting to be mindful; it just happened.
I would like to say that I’m blessed in having time to smell the roses, or in my case, watch the bees, when so many others are busy working overtime, raising children or going back to school. In reality though I just make quiet time a priority in my life, and I believe that allows for more opportunities to be mindful.
Every evening through the week that I make dinner I sit at the table to eat. My husband works 2nd shift so I’m alone, but I rarely turn on the TV or touch my phone. Often I will find something to read such as a magazine. The important thing though is that I don’t allow myself to be distracted by news, social media, etc. It’s almost like a time out of sorts that allows me to reset for the evening.
When I go for a run I never wear headphones. Safety is a primary reason, but even on the rail trail I choose not to. Instead I tune into the world around me. Nature. The other people near me. My body’s reactions to the temperature, terrain, intensity of the run. I allow myself to get lost in my own thoughts. It’s not uncommon for me to come back from a run and want to write; the increased blood flow seems to stir creativity within my mind.
I don’t believe true mindfulness can be scheduled. While taking time out of each day to relax is certainly beneficial for people’s health, it doesn’t necessarily cause one to become aware. I think the more often we choose to disconnect whether it be in the literal sense from our phones or TVs or the figurative sense, the more likely we are to become lost in the quiet moments of life. The moments that may not seem overly important or special, but that bring us inner peace just by being part of them. That to me is true mindfulness.